Patriarchy, Christian Reconstructionsim, and White Supremacy


recinstructionismTRTR rarely puts out a heads up on what’s new on the sidebar research links, but today is an exception. Under “Now Featuring” and also a permanent link on left sidebar, you will see an excellent research article entitled Patriarchy, Christian Reconstructionsim, and White Supremacy, from the site, Diary of an Autodidact. This topic is extensive, but, be that as it may, a much needed issue that needs addressed. Give yourself plenty of time, much thought and ready for research. These teachings are no longer fringe but mainstream, being endorsed and warmly embraced throughout evangelicalism, with a strong foothold in Reformed circles. The article touches on many aspects of this movement, including the Dabney and Rushdoony connection. Am glad to see Gothardism addressed, being a former Gothardite myself, which can lead, more often than not, into the other systems addressed. As the author of the article states, “For those who care about the issues currently dividing conservative Christianity, I think this information is important. I would urge my readers to follow the links as well. These are ideas that are being flaunted publicly and proudly, not hidden.”

Lord Bless you in your research.

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Index of articles of interest from Under Much Grace (Patriarchy, Kinism, Neoconfederates, Christian nationalism, Vision Forum, hierarchical “power and authority structure”, Neoconfederate Element in Patriarchy, and many more topics along these lines. Be sure and search this site for further research.

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The Beauty of Loving a Husband without Needing Him ~ via Wade Burleson – With Update


Update 9/23/12: TRT was contacted by Barbara Robert from, A Cry For Justice and  Not Under Bondage, in regard to the last paragraph of this article. I am posting her concerns so we all can learn from her on the subject of domestic abuse. I know for myself, in reading this article, I initially overlooked the word “panic” and didn’t see the seriousness this thought represents. I apologize to my readers for glossing over this, I take full responsibility for posting, as this kind of reasoning, in this situation- mentioned at the end of post- can cause much harm. Barbara explains:

 

(From Article and point in question) “If your husband is a controlling, manipulative and patriarchal Christian, when you begin to live like you don’t need him, he will panic. He will think he is losing you. He will think that you “are different.” Give it time. Soon, Christ will either heal him of his need to have you under his control, or he will leave you.”
(Barbara’s reply) I support dozens of Christian victims and survivors of domestic abuse, and am a survivor myself. The almost universal experience of the victim-survivor is that when she (or occasionally he) begins to live like she doesn’t need her spouse, and starts to follow Christ rather than be controlled by her manipulative husband, the abuser escalates the abuse. This is far more than him panicking. It is him becoming much more dangerous and abusive than he already was! Moreover, very few abusers are ‘healed’, though many jump through hoops for while to portray themselves as repentant and reformed. And most abusers don’t leave their spouses, they want the marriage to continue, because they want to continue to have power and control over their victim and receive services from her.”

 

Thank you Barbara.

 

 

 

  By Wade Burleson

Yesterday I spoke to a group of young mothers at a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) meeting. I began with the statement: “Your husband is attracted to you when you don’t need him, but you love him.” I knew that what I was saying to them was completely opposite of what they usually hear, but I expressed a desire to prove to them that Scripture supported my statement. The typical marriage conference speaker will tell wives that they should have their basic needs–needs like love, security, and significance–met by their husbands. Wives will then leave those marriage conferences having huge expectations that their husbands should meet their needs, particularly if they do their part and meet their husbands sexual, psychological and emotional needs as well. I explained to the MOPS ladies that God never designed for Christian marriages to work this way.
Psychologists tell us, and the Scriptures affirm, that the basic needs of any human being (man or woman) include the need to connect with another person or persons (i.e. love or sociality), the need for respect (i.e. signficance) and the need to protect and be free from fear of personal harm ( i.e. security). God never designed a woman to have her basic needs met by her husband, nor vice-versa. A human being’s basic needs are to be met by Christ alone. I then pointed the ladies to three Scripture passages:

(1).  “My God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory” (Philippians 4:19). Not “your husband” shall supply all your needs. The gospels reveal that Jesus gave much practical comfort to His disciples, both men and women (see Luke 8:1-3). Christ explicitly said that those who receive Him as Savior and Lord are not to worry about their future. He, their King, has everything under His control.  He, not your husband, will provide for all your needs. See Matthew 6:25-34 as an example of Christ’s teaching on this subject. Any wife who looks to her husband as the provider of her basic needs is substituting her husband for Christ.

(2). “At the resurrection, people will neither marry nor be given in marriage” (Matthew 22:30). These are the words of Jesus. The resurrection is that time when God raises believers in Christ from the dead to live forever on the earth where the curse has been reversed. This is what Jesus meant when He said, “The meek will inherit the earth” (Matthew 5:5). When the redeemed earth is given to us as an inheritance, the city that Christ has been preparing for His people (see John 14:1-4, Hebrews 11:10, and Revelation 20) will descend from heaven and unite with this redeemed earth. This is the day that “all of creation is groaning for” (Romans 8:22). The point of all this is: For eternity, contrary to what Muslims, Mormons and other radical patriachs advocate, no woman will ever have her identity associated with marriage to any man.

Any religion on this earth that refuses to assist women to find their basic needs met in Jesus Christ, any religion that refrains from pointing women to the King of Kings and encourages them to revel in the riches of being “wed to Christ,” and any religion that somehow makes a woman think she needs her husband (spiritually, emotionally, or materially) is a religion that is not based on the infallible Scriptures or the truth of God’s Kingdom. On the other hand, those Christian women who have been set free from the bondage of believing that they need their husbands to meet their basic needs, and then simply love their husbands from the oveflow of experientially resting in the love and provisions of Christ, will find a slice of heaven in their homes.

(3). “What causes quarrels and fightings among you? Don’t they come from a battle over desires within you? You want something but don’t get it. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God” (James 4:1-2). Angry quarrels, scornful fights, and other efforts to control and manipulate your spouse arise from a desire to have your basic needs met by your mate rather than by your God. God never designed your husband to take His place in your life. Christ alone is your Source of real and lasting love, personal and abiding signficance, and unqualified daily security.

“Seek first the Kingdom of God,” Jesus said. The Kingdom of God is best defined as God’s reign in your life through Jesus Christ. His Kingdom is within you (Luke 17:21). One day His Kingdom will be all around you, but until then, His reign is within. For this reason, you don’t need your husband to be a certain way. You may want certain things from your husband, and of course, there is nothing wrong with asking; but you don’t need him to be a certain way. Why? Because every need you have is designed to be met by God.

Questions Asked Me by the Mothers

“Why does the Bible speak of a man and a woman becoming ‘one flesh’ in marriage if marriage is not designed to be permanent and marriage is not the place that a woman is to receive her identity?”

Answer: Marriage is a picture of the union that a man and a woman indivudally have with Christ. One should never replace the reality with the picture. When you embrace and kiss the picture to the exclusion of what the picture represents, you become an unhealthy Christian. For example, if I pick my wife up from the airport after a long absence,  run toward her to greet her, and then suddenly stop, ignore my wife, pull out a picture of her and then kiss the picture, I am an unhealthy person. I have made an idol of the picture and missed the reality of what the picture represents. Pictures break. They rip, burn, fade, and are often destroyed. So, too, marriages break and fall apart, but they are only pictures of the reality of one’s union with Christ. If the picture is destroyed, IT NEVER MEANS THAT THE REALITY CONVEYED BY THE PICTURE IS GONE. A woman is to get her signficance, security, and love from her union with Jesus Christ, and never a union with any man.

“What happens when my husband breaks his vow of sexual fidelity to me, or becomes emotional or physically abusive to me?”

To say that a husband’s infidelity does not hurt a wife would be false. To say the wife does not need her husband to be faithful would be true. To say that a husband’s emotional and physical abuse does not hurt a wife would be false. To say that a wife does not need her husband to be kind, loving and gracious would be true. A married woman does not need to be married. She wants to remain married, but she doesn’t need to remain married.

Therefore, if your husband is unfaithful or abusive, confront your husband in love and draw a boundary. Tell your husband that you cannot control his actions, nor is it your desire to control him. Let him know that if he desires another woman, or if he feels the need to abuse you, then you will let him go. You can and will end the marriage because you do not need him. End it, however, not in spite, or anger, or manipulation or control. End it because you refuse to enable your husband in his sin, or be a wife that remains in abuse because you can’t live without your man. You can. And, when the marriage is over, treat your former husband with dignity, respect and kindness–the same way you would treat any man who is not your husband, for that is the kind of person a woman who has her needs met in Christ is.

In many marriages, wives will unintentionally enable their husbands to continue in their addictions or sin because they unintentionally substitute their husbands for Christ. When a wife cannot picture a future without her husband, she has made the picture (marriage) her idol, and lost perspective on the reality that her marriage is intended to represent (her union with Christ).

“Be specific on why my husband is attracted to me when I don’t need him, but I love him?”

Christ’s love for us is magnetic. “We love Him because He first loved us” (I John 4:19). Christ does not need us. He doesn’t need us to be happy. He doesn’t need us to be fulfilled. He doesn’t need us to be a certain way for Him to feel significant. When He loves us, it is a selfless love. His love is unconditional, and wells within Him like an artesian spring. We don’t pull it out of Him; He loves because He is love. When we begin to understand and experience this unconditional and personal love, we are drawn toward Him.

In the same manner, when a fulfilled, self-sufficient woman marries a man, she doesn’t need her man. The Kingdom of God is God’s total answer for her total need. What she needs is Christ, and she has Him. She’s wed to Him, and she desires to be in her marriage all that Christ has made her to be in life. However, her God is not her husband. Her God is Christ. So, she loves her husband, but she doesn’t need her husband. That kind of love is magnetic and draws a husband toward his wife. Granted, your husband may not understand selfless love either, mainly because His needs are not being met by Christ. For this reason, he may become unfaithful by searching for his fulfillment in other women. A Christian woman must set boundaries in her marriage, but the enforcement of those boundaries should always be done with dignity, respect and love for the unfaithful spouse–and for his good.. Only healthy Christians, those who see their basic needs are always met by Christ, can draw boundaries and enforce them with the love of Christ.

There is always something very attractive about being loved by a person who doesn’t need you.

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The MOPS ladies at Emmanuel Enid started their fall session with this study yesterday. Though it is contrary to much of what they will hear in the religious world, I am convinced that the principles I gave to them are from Christ. His words convey life. His truth sets people free. My prayer is that His words will provide some guidance and comfort to ladies who might read this over the Internet as well.

A final note: If your husband is a controlling, manipulative and patriarchal Christian, when you begin to live like you don’t need him, he will panic. He will think he is losing you. He will think that you “are different.” Give it time. Soon, Christ will either heal him of his need to have you under his control, or he will leave you. Either way, you can’t continue in a marriage where your husband has taken the place of Christ–it is unhealthy for both you and him.

Additional Thoughts on Article: (From comments section – by Wade’s father, Paul Burleson)

“Someone said there are three types of needs in our life. We can live life to the fullest without the first two coming to pass and there is no assurance they will be met. But that’s OK. They are not what makes life worth living

Casual needs are the first kind. We need it to not rain on our picnic, the car to start late at night after a movie, the oven to work properly cooking a roast. When those needs are fulfilled, GREAT. But life would be worth living without them being met. Bad things happen!

Critical needs are the second kind. The doctor says it’s malignant, the police call and my loved one has been in a wreck, I’m going in for triple by-pass. The needs are obvious here. But, no guarantee that they will be met. Sometimes the doctor says, “I got it all.” sometimes he says, “I couldn’t get it all and you have six months.” Bad things happen!

Interestingly enough, life is worth living when critical needs DON’T come to pass. We can ask anyone who’s faced the bad doctor’s report and yet rejoiced in a fashion for the rest of their days that makes the rest of us wonder about our own ability to face it the way they do.

But then there are the crucial needs. These are needs without which NO ONE can live life as God intends life to be lived. Those needs, while few in number, are so crucial that to not have them met, can create other relational problems that can stagger the mind and can leave one with a hopelessness that is unspeakable. They are few but, they are crucial for life to be worth living.

They are, in simple terms, boiled down to the bare minimum…as a human being we need..

to know someone loves us unconditionally.

to know are special to someone.

to know you are not alone.]

It’s wonderful when a marriage supplies these, when parent/child relationships supply these, when friendships supply them.

BUT…Two things to remember…

One, no marriage, parent,child, friend, was ever intended to meet them. Nor can they without failure. They’re not God. It would be best if we didn’t insist they do. That’s what Wade’s superb post presents.

Two, God DOES meet them and that’s the kind of relationship we have with Him in Christ who did settle our sin issue that kept us from having that kind of relationship with the Father.

We’re loved unconditionally. [Not.. "if I/when I/because I".. because He (Christ) has.]

We’re special beyond measure to Him. [We're that ONE lamb worth going after, that one son whose return He celebrates.]

We’re never going to be separated from Him. [He will NEVER leave us or forsake us.]

That makes life and life worth living. All the other kinds of needs, if met, make things kind of nice, maybe even comfortable, but the latter needs are ESSENTIAL for life to be worth living and God says yes to meeting all of them.

Then…we can give love, acceptance, and be there for others because we have been give that in Him. But we DON’T have to attach an umbilical cored to any one or any thing for life to be real life. That’s the idea addressed so well in the post today.

I hope this helps to some degree, but keep asking questions. That’s healthy too IMHO.”

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Breaking Free From Spiritually Abusive Power Systems ~ Helps and Research


 

This post is an excerpt from: Equipped: Anatomy of Spiritually Abusive Power Systems  (For further research)

 

Spiritual Abuse  Profile

 

by David Henke Watchman Expositor

Founding Date: Spiritual abuse is as old as false religion itself. While the practice is old, the term “spiritual abuse” may have been coined first by Jeff VanVonderen.

Organizational Structure: Can occur under virtually any organizational structure, but “top down” hierarchical structures are especially well suited to systemic spiritual abuse.

DEFINED

Spiritual abuse is the misuse of a position of power, leadership, or influence to further the selfish interests of someone other than the individual who needs help. Sometimes abuse arises out of a doctrinal position. At other times it occurs because of legitimate personal needs of a leader that are being met by illegitimate means. Spiritually abusive religious systems are sometimes described as legalistic, mind controlling, religiously addictive, and authoritarian.

COMMON CHARACTERISTICS

#1) Authoritarian

The most distinctive characteristic of a spiritually abusive religious system, or leader, is the over-emphasis on authority. Because a group claims to have been established by God Himself the leaders in this system claim the right to command their followers.

This authority supposedly comes from the position they occupy. In Matthew 23:1-2 Jesus said the Scribes and Pharisees “sit in Moses’ seat,” a position of spiritual authority. Many names are used but in the abusive system this is a position of power, not moral authority. The assumption is that God operates among His people through a hierarchy, or “chain of command.” In this abusive system unconditional submission is often called a “covering,” or “umbrella of protection” which will provide some spiritual blessing to those who fully submit. Followers may be told that God will bless their submission even if the leadership is wrong. It is not their place to judge or correct the leadership – God will see to that.

#2) Image Conscious

The abusive religious system is scrupulous to maintain an image of righteousness. The organization’s history is often misrepresented in the effort to demonstrate the organization’s special relationship to God. The mistaken judgements and character flaws of its leaders are denied or covered up in order to validate their authority. Impossibly high legalistic standards of thought and behavior may be imposed on the members. Their failure to live up to these standards is a constant reminder of the follower’s inferiority to his leaders, and the necessity of submission to them. Abusive religion is, at heart, legalism.

Abusive religion is also paranoid. Because the truth about the abusive religious system would be quickly rejected if recognized, outsiders are shown only a positive image of the group. This is rationalized by assuming that the religion would not be understood by “worldly” people; therefore they have no right to know. This attitude leads to members being secretive about some doctrines and the inner policies and procedures of the group. Leaders, especially, will keep secrets from their members. This secrecy is rooted in a basic distrust of others because the belief system is false and can not stand scrutiny.

#3) Suppresses Criticism

Because the religious system is not based on the truth it cannot allow questions, dissent, or open discussions about issues. The person who dissents becomes the problem rather than the issue he raised. The truth about any issue is settled and handed down from the top of the hierarchy. Questioning anything is considered a challenge to authority. Thinking for oneself is suppressed by pointing out that it leads to doubts. This is portrayed as unbelief in God and His anointed leaders. Thus the follower controls his own thoughts by fear of doubting God.

#4) Perfectionistic

A most natural assumption is that a person does not get something for nothing. Apart from the express declarations of salvation by grace through faith God has given in the scriptures, it would be natural to think that one must earn salvation, or at least work to keep it. Thus, in abusive religions all blessings come through performance of spiritual requirements. Failure is strongly condemned so there is only one alternative, perfection. So long as he thinks he is succeeding in his observation of the rules, the follower typically exhibits pride, elitism, and arrogance. However, when reality and failure eventually set in, the result is the person experiences spiritual burnout, or even shipwreck of his faith. Those who fail in their efforts are labeled as apostates, weak, or some other such term so that they can be discarded by the system.

#5) Unbalanced

Abusive religions must distinguish themselves from all other religions so they can claim to be distinctive and therefore special to God. This is usually done by majoring on minor issues such as prophecy, carrying biblical law to extremes, or using strange methods of biblical interpretation. The imbalanced spiritual hobby-horse thus produced represents unique knowledge or practices which seem to validate the group’s claim to special status with God.

BIBLICAL RESPONSE

Examples of spiritual abuse are found throughout the Bible. God describes (and condemns) the “shepherds of Israel” who feed themselves rather than the flock, who do not heal those who are hurting, or seek to bring back those who were driven away but rather discard them, ruling with force and cruelty (Ezekiel 34:1-10). Jesus reacted with anger against the thievery of the money changers in the Temple as they misused God’s people for selfish reasons (Matthew 21:12-13; Mark 11:15-18; Luke 19:45-47; John 2:13-16). He was angry at those more concerned with rules and regulations than with human suffering (Mark 3:1-5). In Matthew 23, Jesus describes the abusive spiritual leader in great detail. In John 9 the Pharisees “cast out” the man born blind simply because the truth he told about his healing exposed their own corruption. In Acts 7:51-56, Stephen called the Jewish leaders to account over their spiritual abuse. His testimony of Christ vindicated Jesus, whom they had abused, and condemned them. The legalistic Jews were so angry they stoned Stephen to death. In Galatians Paul addressed a performance based Christianity which leads to the abuse of legalism. There are many more such examples.

As God in human flesh, Jesus had legitimate spiritual authority. But He did not exercise it to gain power for Himself, or to abuse and control others with rules and regulations. He said, “Come unto me all ye that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest” (Matt. 11:28). The Greek word for “heavy laden” is phortizo which means here “to overburden with ceremony (or spiritual anxiety)” (Strong’s Concordance #5412). Jesus gave a balanced perspective on positional authority when he said, “But be not ye called Rabbi: for one is your Master, even Christ; and all ye are brethren” (Matthew 23:8). He gave another key to discernment when He taught, “He that speaketh of himself seeketh his own glory…” (John 7:18a).

Jesus was not “image conscious.” He was willing to associate with wine drinkers, cheating tax collectors and even prostitutes. He accused the legalistic Pharisees of “teaching for doctrine the commandments of men” (Matthew 15:9) and likened their showy, hypocritical outward rightousness to “whited sepulchres, which indeed appear beautiful outwardly, but are within full of dead men’s bones, and of all uncleanness” (Matthew 23:27).

Neither was He paranoid. His ministry was conspicuously open to the public. When He was on trial (John 18) He was asked about His teachings and His reply was, “Why askest thou me?” Jesus pointed out that He always taught in public, and never in secret, so why not ask His disciples. He had nothing to hide.

Jesus did not fear to criticize the religious leaders or their faulty doctrines (e.g. Matthew 15:1-9; 23:1-39, etc.). And when confronted with criticism or with treacherous questions designed to discredit Him, His response was never to simply demand silence or only positive recognition from His accusers. Rather, He gave answers – scriptural and reasonable answers – to their objections (e.g. Luke 7:36-47; Matthew 19:3-9).

Jesus upheld the high standard of the Law, yet He clearly placed the legitimate needs of people before any rules or regulations (Matthew 12:1-13; Mark 2:23-3:5). The scriptures make it clear that no one will cease to sin in this life (Ecclesiastes 7:20; 1 John 1:8). Jesus made it plain, however, that one can know in this life that one has eternal life (John 5:24; 6:37-40), a theme developed by Paul throughout his epistles, and by John (1 John 5:10-13).

The Pharisees, quintessential spiritually abusive leaders, were quite unbalanced in their perception of what mattered most to God. Jesus said they, “…pay tithe of mint and anise and cummin, and have omitted the weightier matters of the law, – judgment, mercy, and faith….” (Matthew 23:23).

EFFECTS OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE

Spiritual abuse has a devastating effect on people. A very high level of trust is often placed in spiritual leaders. It is, and ought to be, expected that the trust will be honored and guarded. When such trust is violated the wound is very deep. Sometimes the wound is so deep that the wounded person cannot trust even a legitimate spiritual authority again.

An analogous situation exists with the victims of incest. The emotional and psychological symptoms exhibited by victims of incest parallel those of spiritual abuse to a remarkable degree. The main symptom is the inability to relate normally to people who represent the source of their emotional injury.

Besides an unhealthy fear of, and disillusionment with, spiritual authorities, the spiritually abused person may find it difficult to trust even God. “How could (or why did) He let this happen to me?” Anger is also deeply felt. Anger itself is not always wrong – God Himself expresses anger at such spiritual abuse (see Biblical Response, above). However, even legitimate anger, if not properly channeled and dealt with, can degenerate into bitterness and cynicism toward everything spiritual.

RECOVERY FROM SPIRITUAL ABUSE

Healthy recovery from spiritual abuse must begin with understanding what has happened and how. A victim usually thinks he is the only one experiencing these problems. Just being able to give a name to the problem is important. There are many books on the subject (see Resources, below) that will be helpful in learning about spiritual abuse and recovery.

Afterward the abused person must learn the true nature of God’s grace, love and forgiveness. This is the foundation for being able to eventually forgive the abuser. Being able to share the experience and what has been learned so as to minister to someone else’s need is also very important. This could be done in a support group made up of people with a similar experience who can share the healing love of Christ.

Finally, a lot of time must be allowed for full recovery.

 

RESOURCES

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse, by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen, Bethany House Publishers. Dynamite! Excellent help for recognizing and escaping spiritual manipulation and false spiritual authority within the Church. 235 pages-$10.

Faith That Hurts, Faith That Heals, by Stephen Arterburn, and Jack Felton, Thomas Nelson Publishers. Very thorough treatment, analyzes beliefs that make harmful faith, religious addiction, etc. as well as treatment and recovery, and the characteristics of healthy faith. 320 pages-$11.

Breaking Free, by David R. Miller, Baker Book House. Speaking first-hand from the experiences of his own family, Miller penetrates virtually every nuance of legalism and its insidious effects on individual and family life. 176 pages-$10.

Wisdom Hunter, be Randall Arthur, Multnomah Press. Taut, fast-paced thriller presents a powerful message about the damage caused by Christian legalism. 323 pages-$10.

Churches That Abuse, by Ronald Enroth, Zondervan. Providing real-life examples throughout, Enroth probes every corner of the abusive church. He also provides help to find the way out, and back to God’s healing. 253 pages, endnotes-$6.

 

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Confused by Complementarianism? You probably should be (via Carl Trueman)


Many have been just as perplexed as Carl over this “bone of contention.” It truly is a circus. I do love it when Carl says, “I have known quite a few complementarians who seem to be such less because of the Bible and more because they apparently watched Conan the Barbarian a few too many times in their early teenage years.”

 

For more discussion and thoughts, see “Gospel” and “Complementarianism” Cause Further Confusion

 

by Carl Trueman

Reformation 21 Blog

 

Carl Trueman

Given that the issue of complementarianism is raising its head over at The Gospel Coalition, it provides an opportunity to reflect on an issue that has always perplexed me: why is the complementarian/egalitarian debate such a significant bone of contention in parachurch cobelligerent organisations whose stated purpose is to set aside issues which divide at a church level but which do not seem to impact directly upon the gospel?   Why, for instance, is this issue of more importance than, say, differences over baptism or understandings of the Lord’s Supper?  Historically and confessionally, those have been the issues that divide, so it is strange to see the adjective ‘confessional’ applied to movements which actually sideline the very doctrinal differences which made Protestant confessions necessary in the first place.

One answer is that egalitarianism as a position is usually accompanied by lower views of scripture and the presence of other, more serious errors and heterodoxies.   That might well be true in some, perhaps even many, cases but it is not necessarily so, any more than it is true that all complementarians are thoroughly orthodox on all other issues or hold the position for biblical reasons.  I have known quite a few complementarians who seem to be such less because of the Bible and more because they apparently watched Conan the Barbarian a few too many times in their early teenage years.

Still, it is true:  I have indeed come across those who argue for women’s ordination on the grounds that Paul was simply wrong; but I have also met those who think we have simply moved on from Paul’s time, that he was right then but that his teaching cannot be applied directly to the twenty-first century context.  Further, I have met those who profess to hold to inerrancy and who  think that the relevant texts are authoritative but that the complementarian understanding of them is wrong.  The latter two classes of people seem to me to be raising primarily hermeneutical issues; and the last group in particular does not seem, on the face of it, to be advocating a necessarily low view of scripture in the typical sense of the phrase.   Indeed, I see no reason why one could not be an egalitarian and an inerrantist.  And if it is a hermeneutical difference, how does one decide that this particular difference among inerrantists is more egregious than, say, those between Baptists and Paedobaptists or Dispensationalists and Amillennialists?

Further, there seems to be inconsistency even in the way the issue plays out among evangelical leaders.  Some years ago, it was pointed out that paedobaptist Presbyterians could preach at some Baptist churches but could not take the Lord’s Supper there.  That may seem odd to some but it is entirely consistent with a Baptist view of the church.   So here is a question: could a female Baptist minister, baptized by immersion, who is a professing Christian (albeit in error on the point of complementarianism) who happened to be on holiday in the vicinity of such a church – could such a lady, I ask, attend morning worship there and take communion?

If the answer is yes, then it is clear that this Baptist church rightly puts no barrier around the Lord’s Table beyond baptism and a credible profession of faith; but it then raises acute questions.  For example, why does the parachurch coalition apparently take a stricter line than the church on what is treated in such a church as no barrier to fellowship at the Lord’s Table?  And why does it take a laxer line on an issue that is deemed major enough by the church to create a situation where a visiting Presbyterian preacher is functionally excommunicated straight after his sermon on a Sunday morning?

By contrast, if the answer is no, this visiting lady Baptist minister could not take the Lord’s Supper at this church, then egalitarianism appears to have been raised to the level of a sin which brings the credibility of one’s public profession of the Christian faith into serious doubt.  If that is the case, then churches presumably need to start disciplining even those members who may believe in egalitarianism too.

This is not the only awkward question one might ask: for example, which is more unacceptable to a Baptist – a woman preaching credobaptism or a man preaching paedobaptism?   But that is for another day.  In the meantime, do not misunderstand me: I do write as a convinced complementarian and a member of a church where no elders or deacons are – or can be — women, though none of them are – or can be – Lutherans, Baptists or Dispensationalists either.  It is thus not complementarianism in itself to which I object; I am simply not sure why it is such a big issue in organisations whose stated purpose is basic co-operation for the propagation of the gospel and where other matters of more historic, theological and ecclesiastical moment are routinely set aside.  If you want simply to unite around the gospel, then why not simply unite around the gospel?   Because as soon as you decide that issues such as baptism are not part of your centre-bounded set but complementarianism is, you will find yourself vulnerable to criticism — from both right and left — that you are allowing a little bit of the culture war or your own pet concerns and tastes to intrude into what you deem to be the most basic biblical priorities.

Women, Know Your Place!


A lampooning of the the absurd

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Equipped: Anatomy of Spiritually Abusive Power Systems


 

Facing Your Spiritual Abuser: Index of Posts About the Star Chamber and the Hot Seat

By Cynthia Kunsman Under Much Grace

Sometimes, members of a high demand group or a spiritually abusive church are called in to sessions of confrontation with their group leadership, pastors, and elders in order to intimidate them and to secure their compliance with group demands. And quite often, when people discover problems with manipulation, doctrine, or exploitation within their spiritually abusive church, they feel responsible to inform their leadership. Many people seek out their leaders to inform their leaders that they are leaving their group, just as a courtesy, to find personal closure, and sometimes, to hopefully make their spiritual abuser aware of the hurtful if not harmful nature of their actions – a personal courtesy to them.

Because of the authoritarian nature of spiritually abusive groups and the dynamics by which the leaders perpetuate control and coercion of the followers, group leaders generally react to this type of confrontation in very predictable ways. Such a system demands compliance with a certain set of dynamics, one of which demands complete perfection of the group, the way it does things, and the decisions made by the leaders. The group defines ultimate truth, so the group leadership speaks on God’s behalf. The system demands complete devotion and compliance, requiring unquestioned obedience and complete submission to authority to any of their superiors on their chain of command. Because these dynamics demand that the follower assume fault at all costs, for the purposes of discussion, we have named the sessions of confrontation the “Star Chamber.”
Manipulative groups also make use of shame sessions that demand that the follower confess their faults to the group and the leadership. Deeply personal information elucidated in the “star chamber” can generally be extracted from group members because of the threatening nature of the confrontation sessions, what some high demand groups have formally called “the Hot Seat.”
If you’re planning to confront a church leader that you suspect might be spiritually abusive, you will find this series of blog posts quite helpful. If you have advanced knowledge of the nature of a meeting to which you’ve been summoned, or if you are planning to confront manipulative church leaders, please take advantage of this information in advance. If you are recovering from this aspect of spiritual abuse which often proves to be quite difficult because of the moral questions that arise, you will likely find this information helpful to you as you work through the anger, grief, recovery, moving through your experience into triumph.
The many posts on the subject have been categorized to make them easier to navigate.
Thought Conversion During Confrontations
With a Manipulative Leader
(What is the Church Star Chamber and the Hot Seat?)


Considerations and Protective Measures to Take
When You Encounter a Hot Seat / Star Chamber Meeting
Confronting Spiritual Abuse:
The Biblical Perspective


Matthew 18
Exposing Spiritual Abuse and Naming Abusers


Problems with “Biblical Mediation” and Reconciliation
  • What To Do When A Brother Doesn’t Repent? The Potential Problems of Merging Forgiveness and Reconciliation
  • The Problem of “Biblical Mediation” and Reconciliation Within a Spiritually Abusive Group: The Errors of Shepherding and Peacemaker Ministries
  • Thoughts About Forgiveness
Questions About the
Hot Seat / Star Chamber Experience


Keep checking for further updates on new articles in this series, as well as new questions at Under Much Grace

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“What, you don’t want any authority in your life?  Ahh, you’re a sinful rebel, rejecting accountability to your leader!” See: Mind Control: Six Tell-Tale Signs of Abusive Church Leaders  (if you browse this site after reading this particular article,  TRT doesn’t endorse everything you may encounter)

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Spiritual Abuse  Profile

by David Henke Watchman Expositor

Founding Date: Spiritual abuse is as old as false religion itself. While the practice is old, the term “spiritual abuse” may have been coined first by Jeff VanVonderen.

Organizational Structure: Can occur under virtually any organizational structure, but “top down” hierarchical structures are especially well suited to systemic spiritual abuse.

DEFINED

Spiritual abuse is the misuse of a position of power, leadership, or influence to further the selfish interests of someone other than the individual who needs help. Sometimes abuse arises out of a doctrinal position. At other times it occurs because of legitimate personal needs of a leader that are being met by illegitimate means. Spiritually abusive religious systems are sometimes described as legalistic, mind controlling, religiously addictive, and authoritarian.

COMMON CHARACTERISTICS

#1) Authoritarian

The most distinctive characteristic of a spiritually abusive religious system, or leader, is the over-emphasis on authority. Because a group claims to have been established by God Himself the leaders in this system claim the right to command their followers.

This authority supposedly comes from the position they occupy. In Matthew 23:1-2 Jesus said the Scribes and Pharisees “sit in Moses’ seat,” a position of spiritual authority. Many names are used but in the abusive system this is a position of power, not moral authority. The assumption is that God operates among His people through a hierarchy, or “chain of command.” In this abusive system unconditional submission is often called a “covering,” or “umbrella of protection” which will provide some spiritual blessing to those who fully submit. Followers may be told that God will bless their submission even if the leadship is wrong. It is not their place to judge or correct the leadership – God will see to that.

#2) Image Conscious

The abusive religious system is scrupulous to maintain an image of righteousness. The organization’s history is often misrepresented in the effort to demonstrate the organization’s special relationship to God. The mistaken judgements and character flaws of its leaders are denied or covered up in order to validate their authority. Impossibly high legalistic standards of thought and behavior may be imposed on the members. Their failure to live up to these standards is a constant reminder of the follower’s inferiority to his leaders, and the necessity of submission to them. Abusive religion is, at heart, legalism.

Abusive religion is also paranoid. Because the truth about the abusive religious system would be quickly rejected if recognized, outsiders are shown only a positive image of the group. This is rationalized by assuming that the religion would not be understood by “worldly” people; therefore they have no right to know. This attitude leads to members being secretive about some doctrines and the inner policies and proceedures of the group. Leaders, especially, will keep secrets from their members. This secrecy is rooted in a basic distrust of others because the belief system is false and can not stand scrutiny.

#3) Suppresses Criticism

Because the religious system is not based on the truth it cannot allow questions, dissent, or open discussions about issues. The person who dissents becomes the problem rather than the issue he raised. The truth about any issue is settled and handed down from the top of the hierarchy. Questioning anything is considered a challenge to authority. Thinking for oneself is suppressed by pointing out that it leads to doubts. This is portrayed as unbelief in God and His anointed leaders. Thus the follower controls his own thoughts by fear of doubting God.

#4) Perfectionistic

A most natural assumption is that a person does not get something for nothing. Apart from the express declarations of salvation by grace through faith God has given in the scriptures, it would be natural to think that one must earn salvation, or at least work to keep it. Thus, in abusive religions all blessings come through performance of spiritual requirements. Failure is strongly condemned so there is only one alternative, perfection. So long as he thinks he is succeeding in his observation of the rules, the follower typically exhibits pride, elitism, and arrogance. However, when reality and failure eventually set in, the result is the person experiences spiritual burnout, or even shipwreck of his faith. Those who fail in their efforts are labeled as apostates, weak, or some other such term so that they can be discarded by the system.

#5) Unbalanced

Abusive religions must distinguish themselves from all other religions so they can claim to be distinctive and therefore special to God. This is usually done by majoring on minor issues such as prophecy, carrying biblical law to extremes, or using strange methods of biblical interpretation. The imbalanced spiritual hobby-horse thus produced represents unique knowledge or practices which seem to validate the group’s claim to special status with God.

BIBLICAL RESPONSE

Examples of spiritual abuse are found throughout the Bible. God describes (and condemns) the “shepherds of Israel” who feed themselves rather than the flock, who do not heal those who are hurting, or seek to bring back those who were driven away but rather discard them, ruling with force and cruelty (Ezekiel 34:1-10). Jesus reacted with anger against the thievery of the money changers in the Temple as they misused God’s people for selfish reasons (Matthew 21:12-13; Mark 11:15-18; Luke 19:45-47; John 2:13-16). He was angry at those more concerned with rules and regulations than with human suffering (Mark 3:1-5). In Matthew 23, Jesus describes the abusive spiritual leader in great detail. In John 9 the Pharisees “cast out” the man born blind simply because the truth he told about his healing exposed their own corruption. In Acts 7:51-56, Stephen called the Jewish leaders to account over their spiritual abuse. His testimony of Christ vindicated Jesus, whom they had abused, and condemned them. The legalistic Jews were so angry they stoned Stephen to death. In Galatians Paul addressed a performance based Christianity which leads to the abuse of legalism. There are many more such examples.

As God in human flesh, Jesus had legitimate spiritual authority. But He did not exercise it to gain power for Himself, or to abuse and control others with rules and regulations. He said, “Come unto me all ye that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest” (Matt. 11:28). The Greek word for “heavy laden” is phortizo which means here “to overburden with ceremony (or spiritual anxiety)” (Strong’s Concordance #5412). Jesus gave a balanced perspective on positional authority when he said, “But be not ye called Rabbi: for one is your Master, even Christ; and all ye are brethren” (Matthew 23:8). He gave another key to discernment when He taught, “He that speaketh of himself seeketh his own glory…” (John 7:18a).

Jesus was not “image conscious.” He was willing to associate with wine drinkers, cheating tax collectors and even prostitutes. He accused the legalistic Pharisees of “teaching for doctrine the commandments of men” (Matthew 15:9) and likened their showy, hypocritical outward rightousness to “whited sepulchres, which indeed appear beautiful outwardly, but are within full of dead men’s bones, and of all uncleanness” (Matthew 23:27).

Neither was He paranoid. His ministry was conspicuously open to the public. When He was on trial (John 18) He was asked about His teachings and His reply was, “Why askest thou me?” Jesus pointed out that He always taught in public, and never in secret, so why not ask His disciples. He had nothing to hide.

Jesus did not fear to criticize the religious leaders or their faulty doctrines (e.g. Matthew 15:1-9; 23:1-39, etc.). And when confronted with criticism or with treacherous questions designed to discredit Him, His response was never to simply demand silence or only positive recognition from His accusers. Rather, He gave answers – scriptural and reasonable answers – to their objections (e.g. Luke 7:36-47; Matthew 19:3-9).

Jesus upheld the high standard of the Law, yet He clearly placed the legitimate needs of people before any rules or regulations (Matthew 12:1-13; Mark 2:23-3:5). The scriptures make it clear that no one will cease to sin in this life (Ecclesiastes 7:20; 1 John 1:8). Jesus made it plain, however, that one can know in this life that one has eternal life (John 5:24; 6:37-40), a theme developed by Paul throughout his epistles, and by John (1 John 5:10-13).

The Pharisees, quintessential spiritually abusive leaders, were quite unbalanced in their perception of what mattered most to God. Jesus said they, “…pay tithe of mint and anise and cummin, and have omitted the weightier matters of the law, – judgment, mercy, and faith….” (Matthew 23:23).

EFFECTS OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE

Spiritual abuse has a devastating effect on people. A very high level of trust is often placed in spiritual leaders. It is, and ought to be, expected that the trust will be honored and guarded. When such trust is violated the wound is very deep. Sometimes the wound is so deep that the wounded person cannot trust even a legitimate spiritual authority again.

An analogous situation exists with the victims of incest. The emotional and psychological symptoms exhibited by victims of incest parallel those of spiritual abuse to a remarkable degree. The main symptom is the inability to relate normally to people who represent the source of their emotional injury.

Besides an unhealthy fear of, and disillusionment with, spiritual authorities, the spiritually abused person may find it difficult to trust even God. “How could (or why did) He let this happen to me?” Anger is also deeply felt. Anger itself is not always wrong – God Himself expresses anger at such spiritual abuse (see Biblical Response, above). However, even legitimate anger, if not properly channeled and dealt with, can degenerate into bitterness and cynicism toward everything spiritual.

RECOVERY FROM SPIRITUAL ABUSE

Healthy recovery from spiritual abuse must begin with understanding what has happened and how. A victim usually thinks he is the only one experiencing these problems. Just being able to give a name to the problem is important. There are many books on the subject (see Resources, below) that will be helpful in learning about spiritual abuse and recovery.

Afterward the abused person must learn the true nature of God’s grace, love and forgiveness. This is the foundation for being able to eventually forgive the abuser. Being able to share the experience and what has been learned so as to minister to someone else’s need is also very important. This could be done in a support group made up of people with a similar experience who can share the healing love of Christ.

Finally, a lot of time must be allowed for full recovery.

RESOURCES

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse, by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen, Bethany House Publishers. Dynamite! Excellent help for recognizing and escaping spiritual manipulation and false spiritual authority within the Church. 235 pages-$10.

Faith That Hurts, Faith That Heals, by Stephen Arterburn, and Jack Felton, Thomas Nelson Publishers. Very thorough treatment, analyzes beliefs that make harmful faith, religious addiction, etc. as well as treatment and recovery, and the characteristics of healthy faith. 320 pages-$11.

Breaking Free, by David R. Miller, Baker Book House. Speaking first-hand from the experiences of his own family, Miller penetrates virtually every nuance of legalism and its insidious effects on individual and family life. 176 pages-$10.

Wisdom Hunter, be Randall Arthur, Multnomah Press. Taut, fast-paced thriller presents a powerful message about the damage caused by Christian legalism. 323 pages-$10.

Churches That Abuse, by Ronald Enroth, Zondervan. Providing real-life examples throughout, Enroth probes every corner of the abusive church. He also provides help to find the way out, and back to God’s healing. 253 pages, endnotes-$6.

 

May the Lord Bless in your research! TRT

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Churches That Abuse ~ Recovering From Churches That Abuse


Aplogetics Index is offering two free online books by Ronald M. Enroth dealing with spiritual abuse and recovery. The first book is Churches That Abuse and the second is Recovery From Churches That Abuse.

 

Churches That Abuse: The following description comes from the book’s front flap:

When does a church cross the line between conventional church status and fringe status? What is the nature of the process by which any given group devolves into a fringe church or movement? What are some of the signs or indicators that a given group is becoming abusive of its members and is headed for the margins? When should a member consider bailing out?

Churches That Abuse answers these and other important questions about abusive churches. This important new book warns and informs readers about the “fringe” churches and groups that operate in this country—organizations and churches that are not necessarily characterized by doctrinal deviation but have particular traits that make them behavioral and sociological outsiders. It also helps readers identify and beware of abusive tendencies in more “normal” Christian churches.

Ronald Enroth identifies what is meant by “abusive churches.” Then, he describes abusive churches, using the ten identifying traits of control-oriented leadership, spiritual elitism, manipulation of members, perceived persecution, lifestyle rigidity, emphasis on experience, suppression of dissent, harsh discipline of members, denunciation of other churches, and the painful exit process. Finally he shows readers how to discern fringe churches and offers several “red flags” that can be discerned when convention churches drift toward the fringe.

Churches That Abuse tells who the abusers are, how their techniques operate, and what the consequences are for marriages, small children, and teenagers. Where most books stop after reporting problem areas, this one continues and offers suggestions for those helping victims of abuse. And it can be read beneficially by those who are involved in abusive churches and have no one to turn to.
- Source: Front flap, Churches That Abuse, by Ronald M. Enroth

While Churches That Abuse has now been out of print for a number of years, it continues to be of great help to — as the cover states — those hurt by:

  • Legalism
  • Authoritarian Leadership
  • Manipulation
  • Excessive Discipline, and
  • Spiritual Intimidation

 

 

Recovering From Churches That Abuse: As is the case with Churches That Abuse, this book has now been out of print for a number of years as well.

Yet it continues to be of great help to people who have been affected by abusive churches. As the book’s cover indicates, it deals with

* The road back from spiritual abuse
* Healing for families who hurt
* Reentry for survivors of cults and sects
* Guidance for pastors and counselors

The following description comes from the book’s front flap:

When Ronald Enroth wrote the best-selling book Churches That Abuse, he touched a nerve with many people who had experienced the pain inflicted by fringe churches and religious groups having authoritarian or other hurtful styles. In this book Enroth points the way toward spiritual and emotional healing for those who have come out of these groups.

This book will help the victims of spiritual abuse and their families cope with reentry into the Christian mainstream, and it will prove invaluable to counselors and pastors who are helping these people to find their way. Specific topics, presented through the narrative style of the book, include dispelling emotional confusion, restoring relationships, regaining independence and making other life adjustments, coping with disorientation, returning to reality, and renewing a wholesome personal relationship with God.

Ronald M. Enroth is a leading scholar and national resource on cults and cultism whose special perspectives are heartily welcomed by both the secular and the religious society. He is professor of sociology at Westmost College and the author of many books on cults and the new religions including The Lure of the Cults and New Religions and Evangelizing the Cults.

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Submission the Final Arbiter


By Jocelyn Anderson

Woman Submit! Christians & Domestic Violence

 

It is an unarguable fact that humans need and want boundaries, so it should come as no surprise that as Biblical Christianity declines, being replaced by a predominantly soft-on-doctrine-don’t-be-judgmental approach, the need for boundaries and structure within the Christian community becomes painfully evident.

   Nowhere is this more evident than in the fact of Evangelical Christians turning in droves to hierarchal priest-craft and more rigid than ever gender-role restrictions in order to provide boundaries and structure in an otherwise anything-goes-religious-free-for-all attitude that is quickly pervading the Christian psyche.
   The Written word of God, the Bible, no longer seems to be the final arbiter as to whether or not behavior is “Christian,” and protestant Christians, who previously looked only to Jesus as Mediator between themselves and their God, seem more willing than ever to transfer that mediatorship from Jesus to pastors who claim it is their responsibility to answer [to God] for their congregants come judgment day.
   How is it that Pastors have become self-appointed mediators between God and their congregations? And how is it that husbands have been appointed mediators between their wives and God? And how is it that how we submit to this man-made hierarchy is said to determine the extent to which we can say it is well with our souls?
   Submission, therefore, becomes the final arbiter of whether or not a person is in rebellion against God?

How convenient for hierarchalists, as this type of Christianity leaves little use for the Lordship of Christ, the guidance of His Holy Spirit, or the assurance of His Written Word.

 

 

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“Can Christian Women Gone Wild Save Us From New Calvinism?”  “……to Phil Johnson’s point, how dare that woomun call out a man of “Piper’s stature” (did he really say that? Let me check again.Yep, he sure did). Well, that pretty much says it all—if one of the who’s who of the evangelical world teaches error, the uneducated book-buying peasants of American church culture need to keep their mouths shut and submit to the “ruling elders.” Worse yet, if not unthinkable, is the idea that one of the woomun peasants would speak out!”

 

 

*****RESEARCH ARTICLES INDEX: AGAINST ETERNAL SUBORDINATION OF THE SON THEOLOGY (ESS)*****

EXCERPT FROM STUDY~ WHY THIS IS ESSENTIAL TO STUDY!!

In patriocentric circles, the most widely held and common belief is that of husbands sanctifying their wives or in some way governing or participating in the sanctification of their wives. The first part of the statement indicates that this is a one-to-one relationship or parallel between the work of Christ and the work of husbands in the lives of their wives. The second half of the statement that the husbands should long and work and love and pray for his wife’s spiritual growth, but this is entirely different from what is implied by equating the husband’s role with working to somehow make his wife “holy and without blemish” as Christ does for the church. Bruce Ware does apply this as applicable not only to Christ’s sanctifying of the church but also relates this as the serious responsibility of a husband towards his wife, does he not? Somehow it is the husband’s dutyto affect this for his own wife as if it is within man’s capabilities to render his wife holy and without spot or blemish! How can a man render his wife holy when man himself lacks the ability to make even himself the least bit holy? Unless he denies that this is his meaning. What then is the meaning of the first part of that statement concerning Ephesians 5:27?

 

 

Certainly a man should long for his wife’s spiritual growth, loving and praying for her, but how does another human being “work” towards this end, affecting something that only Christ can do? Only Christ can make us holy through His Blood and only He can cleanse us from our maculae and stains, presenting us holy and blameless before the Father. Man does not act as intercessor for his wife, and that is not what the Word teaches. But, as Bruce Ware states other places, if woman is the indirect image of God because Eve, the first woman, was taken from Adam’s substance, and she is thus rendered as of a lesser essence either physically or metaphysically (ontologically), then it gives reason that a greater creature could render this care of making one holy. If woman realizes her being and calling only through man and her husband is her intercessor before Christ, than this idea that husband sanctifies his wife is reasonable.

 

 

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Power Posturing: The “Church Discipline” Methods of Mars Hill ~ File it Under: Spiritual Abuse


“The first characteristic of an abusive religious system is what we call power-posturing … means that leaders spend a lot of time focused on their own authority and reminding others of it, as well. {1}

 

The Mars Hill Mess

The Commandments of Men

 

A lot of you have surely heard about it or read about it by now, but for those who haven’t, check out this account of what “church discipline” looks like in the Mark Driscoll/Mars Hill world…
Part 1
Part 2

Today, Matthew posted Spiritual Abuse Must Stop, inspired by the responses to the Andrew/Mars Hill story.

Also, check out this related piece from the ladies at The Wartburg Watch.

I don’t have a lot to add. Matthew and Deb (as well as Andrew and Sophia) have addressed it pretty thoroughly. All I can say is it’s obvious that the Shepherding movement influence is alive and well – at Mars Hill in particular, and in the neo-reformed, elder-led movement as a whole. So many layers of spiritual dysfunction are evident in the “leadership” at Mars Hill, so much absolute power become absolutely corrupted. “Church discipline” seems to be an issue (more like a weapon) ever at the ready for Driscoll, always on the tip of his tongue, always on the periphery of his “teaching”. It even came up in the recent Christianity magazine, Justin Brierly interview I wrote about last week, and seemingly out of left field. It’s what leads me to the opinion I posted there…

His Christianity is all about him. His position as pastor is all about his power – an effort to make up for some significant failings somewhere in his psyche, because without that power, he’s nothing – and he knows it.

The Andrew story, and Mars Hill’s handling of it, only makes that opinion all the more firm.

The really sad thing I’m noticing in the aftermath of these stories, though, is the cult of personality being formed around Driscoll. The comments on Matthew’s blog…just mind-boggling. If THIS story won’t get your attention and make you seriously consider/question the “ministry” and tactics of a leader and his church, nothing will. Nothing. It’s the same kind of cult of personality that supports and upholds a man like Bill Gothard – people always at the ready to figuratively (maybe literally, in some cases) lay down their life in defense of him, even in the face of the slightest of criticisms. And worse yet, it’s the same kind of cult of personality that allowed Jim Jones to create the People’s Temple and Jonestown, do terrible, terrible things to the people there (while they supported him rabidly), and ultimately kill them – because they were afraid to or unwilling to question.

We ALL need to step back from time to time and see if our allegiance is to a man, a movement, a cause, or to Jesus Christ. If it’s to Christ, it seems to me that our first concern would be for the people wounded by men like Driscoll, rather than rushing to defend his reputation. It brings to mind a quote from Quivering Daughters

“It is a grave disservice to the heart, soul, body and spirit of a woman when she is given the subtle message that the truth of her own pain is not as important as the reputation of the ones who inflict it.”

That says it all. Apply it to the people wounded by Mars Hill. I think you’ll see it fits there, too.

My hope is that this whole episode will serve as an EPIC wake-up call for a lot of people, especially for those in the “halfway house mode” of their journey. My fear is that it won’t.

 

 

{1} Quote from the book: David Johnson & Jeff VanVonderen’s The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority Within the Church

 

Related Articles and Resources:

 

Mars Hill and Mark Driscoll-Under Scrutiny While Another Painful Story Emerges

 

Hurt? Wary? Afraid? Do Not “Join” a Local Church!

 

Spiritual Abuse Final Exam – Analyze a Membership Covenant


As always, please read comment section after articles for further information!

Membership Covenant Red Flags

 

The Heresy of Mind Control: Recognizing Con Artists, Tyrants, and Spiritual Abusers in Leadership

 

 

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Embracing the 5 Solas Plus One ~ Sola Gravida: Salvation Through Childbirth


 


Salvation Through Childbirth: A Reflective Analysis of 1 Timothy 2:15

 

 

By Al Maxey

In Plain Site

I want to share with you a very small portion of an e-mail I received over the weekend following Thanksgiving from a dear sister-in-Christ from the beautiful state of South Carolina. Her struggle has touched my heart deeply, and I promised her I would do a study of this issue and make it available to all of you. It is my fervent hope and prayer that the thoughts and insights shared in this present edition of my Reflections will bring peace to her troubled soul, and perhaps to others who may be facing the same doubts. The following is the pertinent portion of her letter that I shall attempt to address:

 Brother Maxey, Having been raised in Churches of Christ, I am having a hard time breaking away from a works-based attitude into one more grace-based. I just can’t seem to break free of this constant fear for my salvation based on the fact that I am not following perfectly each and every verse in the New Testament. For example — I am now an older woman. My husband and I never wanted our own children for many reasons. However, now, when I read the verse about women being saved through childbirth, my heart aches over the thought that this decision of mine may be one which keeps me out of Heaven. It was a willful choice on my part not to have children, and my heart actually hurts when I contemplate where my decision may be sending me when I die, and so I lie awake at night! Bro. Maxey, any insight or help you can offer me would be very much appreciated!

The passage to which this sister alludes is

 “But women will be saved through childbearing — if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety” [1 Timothy 2:15. NIV].

 Disciples of Christ have been scratching their heads over this one for centuries! “This verse is obviously a difficult one to explain” [The Expositor's Bible Commentary, vol. 11, p. 362]. Even such a noted scholar as Dr. Kenneth Wuest, in his classic Word Studies from the Greek New Testament, wrote, “Verse fifteen is most difficult of interpretation” [vol. 2 -- The Pastoral Epistles, p. 49]. The online commentary produced by InterVarsity Press observes, “Verse 15 sounds strange to the ears in any version, and, not surprisingly, its meaning is debated.” Dr. Kenneth Waters, Sr., a professor of NT studies at Azusa Pacific University, stated, “Few verses have generated as much anguish and controversy for interpreters of the Pastoral Epistles as 1 Timothy 2:15.” The well-known biblical scholar Andreas Kostenberger, in a lengthy featured article which appeared in the periodical produced by the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, wrote, “This simple statement has mystified average Bible readers as well as Christian scholars for centuries” [CBMW News, Sept. 1997, p. 1]. As stated above, the confusion is not necessarily cleared up by its treatment in the various versions and translations. Note just a few:

· But women shall be preserved through the bearing of children if they continue in faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint. — New American Standard Bible

· But she will be saved through childbearing, if she continues in faith, love, and holiness, with good sense. — Holman Christian Standard Bible

· But women will be saved in their work of having children. They will be saved if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, and control themselves in the right way. — Easy-to-Read Version

· Yet she will be saved through childbearing — if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control. — English Standard Version

· Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety. — King James Version

· Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control. — New King James Version

· She will be saved through childbearing, provided she continues in faith and love and holiness — her chastity being taken for granted. — New American Bible, St. Joseph Edition (a Catholic version)

· Yet she will be saved through motherhood — if only women continue in faith, love, and holiness, with a sober mind. — New English Bible

· So God sent pain and suffering to women when their children are born, but He will save their souls if they trust in Him, living quiet, good, and loving lives. — Living Bible by Ken Taylor

· However, she will be saved through child-bearing if they continue in faith and love and dedication with good sense. — NT Translation of the Everlasting Gospel by Hugo McCord (a noted leader in Churches of Christ; now deceased; a former Reflections subscriber)

· But women will be saved through motherhood, if they continue to live in faith, love, and purity, blended with good sense. — The NT in the Language of the People by Charles Williams

· But women will be saved by having children, if they stay faithful, loving, holy, and modest. — Contemporary English Version

· However, she will be kept safe through childbearing, provided they continue in faith and love and sanctification along with soundness of mind. — New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures (a Jehovah’s Witness version)

· But she shall be saved through her childbearing, if they continue in faith and love and sanctification with sobriety. — American Standard Version

· Yet woman will be saved through bearing children, if she continues in faith and love and holiness, with modesty. — Revised Standard Version

The great variety of translation is obvious. Some say “women” will be saved, others say “she” will be saved. Some declare the subject of the phrase will be “saved,” others state she will be “preserved” or “kept safe.” Some have “motherhood” in the place of “childbearing.” In the second phrase of the verse, some have “if they continue” and others have “if she continues.” There are also diverse renderings of those things in which she/they must continue. To put it bluntly, if one had to rely upon the English translations of this passage, one would have quite a confused view of authorial intent.

It is no surprise, therefore, that there are several dramatically differing interpretations of this passage, some no less confusing than the plethora of human translations, with a few being quite extreme. Perhaps the most extreme of them all is the doctrine that women of marriageable, child-bearing years can only be saved from the fires of hell through an act of procreation. For example, Dr. Charles Ellicott feels the apostle Paul is placing the primary blame for “the fall” upon Eve. “Adam and Eve both sinned, but Adam was not deceived. He sinned, quite aware all the while of the magnitude of the sin that he was voluntarily committing. Eve, on the other hand, was completely, thoroughly deceived — she succumbed to the serpent’s deceit. Both were involved in the sin, but only one (Eve) allowed herself to be deluded” [Ellicott's Commentary on the Whole Bible, vol. 8, p. 188]. Thus, it’s all Eve’s fault, which is why Paul is saying women aren’t fit for leadership (they are too easily deceived). But, God in His infinite wisdom and mercy is willing to save these feeble-minded creatures if they will fulfill their purpose in life by bearing children. Ellicott writes, “In other words, women will win the great salvation; but if they would win it, they must fulfill their destiny; they must acquiesce in all the conditions of a woman’s life — in the forefront of which St. Paul places the all-important functions and duties of a mother” [ibid].

David Padfield, who is the minister for the Church of Christ in Zion, Illinois, wrote an article titled “Saved in Childbearing” in which he saw this whole passage in Paul’s letter to Timothy as a warning against women seeking to take the lead in the church. They are basically being told to “keep your place.” He asks the question: “Since they were not to become elders, deacons, preachers or even Bible class teachers in the public assembly, how could women be saved? Paul answers this very question by stating that women ‘will be saved in childbearing.’” Somewhat surprisingly, some well-known leaders from the past would agree with Padfield. William Barclay, in his commentary on Paul’s letters to Timothy, Titus and Philemon, wrote, “Women will find salvation, not in addressing meetings, but in motherhood, which is their crown. Whatever else is true, a woman is queen within her home.” David Lipscomb, in his commentary, wrote that a woman “is not by nature, physically or morally, suited to public positions or to counteract the rougher elements of the world. But she is of finer texture … and is better fitted (superior to man) for the work of nursing, training children, and keeping the home attractive and cheerful. … The woman who neglects the duties she owes her children and her home for the public life that God has created for man, leaves her work, her character, and her mission.”

I firmly believe God intends for there to be a distinction between the sexes with regard to many areas of responsibility, and also with respect to our physical appearance — i.e., men are to look like men, and women are to look like women. I firmly believe that leadership among His people is to be carried out by men. However, I also believe many men have “played this for all it’s worth,” and have only succeeded in abusing the very ones God has called us to cherish above our own lives! Honoring God’s order within the family and church does not suggest the inherent superiority of men, nor does it suggest the inherent inferiority of women. Far from it. It suggests the sovereignty of God, and our respective roles within His kingdom. To try and take such a passage as we have before us in this study and to then employ it as a tool for suppressing women, even suggesting they can only be saved by presenting us men with babies, is both abominable and unconscionable! Thus, I completely reject such an interpretation of this passage, even though “the most common interpretation among conservative evangelical interpreters today is that women will eventually be spiritually saved by adhering to their God-ordained role centering around the home” [Andreas Kostenberger, CBMW News, Sept. 1997, p. 1]. If this premise is true, are we then to assume that all those women who are barren, or who remain unmarried, or who choose, for whatever reason, not to have children, are thereby eternally lost? Dr. Paul Kretzmann tries to provide a loophole, saying, “Unless God Himself directs otherwise, a woman misses her purpose in life if she does not become a helpmeet of her husband and a mother of his children. … The home, the family, motherhood, is woman’s proper sphere of activity; her primary function in life; her highest calling” [Popular Commentary of the Bible, The NT: vol. 2, p. 378].

Examining the Text

There are some words, phrases and grammatical constructions within the text of 1 Tim. 2:15 that I believe we need to examine a bit more carefully, as a better understanding of these will aid us greatly in arriving at a more reasonable interpretation of the passage. Context is also critical … as always! The immediate context of verse 15 is to be found in the two preceding verses [13-14], in which Paul returns his readers to the garden, the creation of Adam and Eve, and the fall. Without revisiting every aspect of the early chapters of Genesis, I believe we can all agree that both man and woman erred greatly, even though the motivating nature of their respective transgressions may well have been different. Both were driven from the garden, both had the sentence of physical dying placed upon them, and both were given a specific “curse.” The curse upon man was that he must now labor long over the land to scratch out an existence from it [Gen. 3:17-19], whereas the curse upon the woman was, in part, that her pain in childbirth would greatly increase [Gen. 3:16]. In that same passage God told Eve that her husband “shall rule over you.” Paul alludes to all of this within the overall context of the passage before us in his first epistle to Timothy. Thus, women were not to exercise rule or authority over the men, and they were further to accept the role God ordained for them, and not seek to rebel against it.

In 1 Tim. 2:14 Paul’s focus is clearly upon “the woman” who was deceived. He is speaking specifically of Eve. This is very important to establish, because verse 15 begins (in the Greek text) — “But she will be saved through the bearing of a child.” Although some translations say “women will be saved,” this is an assumption and an addition to the text. The word “women” is not present in the original text. Rather, the word for “saved” appears as a future passive indicative, 3rd person singular — “she will be saved.” Who is the “she” (singular) in view? Clearly it was Eve, from the previous verse. For some translators to change the singular to a plural, and then insert the word “women,” is to take liberties with the inspired text that can only lead to a twisting of the original intent. When Paul spoke of “salvation” in verse 15, he had only one person in view at that point; it was the woman of whom he was speaking in the previous statement — Eve. Adam Clarke wrote, “The word ‘saved’ in this verse refers to ‘the woman’ in the foregoing verse, which is certainly Eve” [Clarke's Commentary, vol. 6, p. 593].

The apostle Paul states that Eve, “being quite deceived, fell into transgression. But she will be saved through childbirth.” In what possible sense would Eve be saved by giving birth? Saved from what? The word we translate “save” is sozo, which means “to save, rescue, deliver, set free.” It has a wide variety of uses in Scripture [Wuest's Word Studies from the Greek NT, vol. 2, p. 49] and does not always refer to spiritual or eternal salvation. “It is used in the NT of the healing of a sick person in the sense that he is saved from illness and from death — Mark 5:34. It is used in the sense of being saved from drowning in a shipwreck — Acts 27:20. Paul uses it in relation to being saved from becoming entangled in false teaching — 1 Tim. 4:16″ [ibid]. “The salvation spoken of here (1 Tim. 2:15) is not salvation in the ordinary sense of the word, as when a sinner puts his faith in the Lord Jesus, and is saved from sin and becomes a child of God” [ibid]. There are several theories proposed as to the nature of this salvation:

Some have suggested that since part of the curse against Eve (and by extension to all women) was increased pain in childbirth, the gracious provision of God to this fallen woman was that He would safely bring her through this time of tribulation. Therefore, Paul is saying, according to this theory, that although she will suffer great pain in giving birth, as a penalty for her transgression, nevertheless she would “be saved through childbirth” — she would not die, but would live to see her sons and daughters begin to fill the earth. God would give Eve pain, but would preserve her throughout the process. He would deliver her through the delivery, so to speak. The New World Translation translates the passage: “she will be kept safe through childbearing.”

Many scholars believe the Greek word teknogonia, from which we get “childbirth,” may have a broader meaning. W. E. Vine, in his Expository Dictionary of NT Words, says it also “implies the duties of motherhood.” Indeed, the NEB reads, “she will be saved through motherhood” (as do some other versions). The Analytical Greek Lexicon of the NT says that this word may mean “the rearing of a family” [p. 399]. In this theory, Eve’s salvation would be from the grief of seeing her children turn away from God, IF “they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control” [NKJV]. Thus, if she proves to be a good mother to these children, training them up in the way they should go, and they walk in that path of righteousness, she would be saved from a life of grief through her effective motherhood. By extension, then, the same would be true of all women whom God has blessed with children.

One of the most popular theories, however, is that Paul’s statement about Eve and about childbearing is Messianic in nature. Much significance is placed upon the Greek construction here. In the text we literally read: “But she will be saved through the childbirth” or “through the birth of a child” (singular). A great many commentators and biblical scholars see this as a clear reference to the birth of the Messiah, who ultimately would save Eve (and all others) from their many sins and transgressions. Thus, Paul speaks of the fall, of Eve’s transgression, and then states her salvation is through the birth of a child. That child, who did indeed descend from Adam and Eve [Luke 3:38], was Jesus, the seed of the woman, who would crush the head of the serpent of old [Gen. 3:15]. Frankly, I think this view has much to commend it, and it seems to fit the contexts of both Genesis 3 and 1 Timothy 2 better than the others. At present I tend to lean strongly toward this interpretation, although I am still open to further study on the matter.

But what exactly are we to make of the last phrase in this Pauline passage — “if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control” [NKJV]? To whom does “they” refer?! And, yes, this is a change from the singular (“she shall be saved…”) to the plural (“if they…”). Some feel “they” is simply extending the promise given to Eve in the first part of the verse unto all women. Others feel “they” is a reference to the children of Adam and Eve (and, by extension, to the children of all women). Women would be saved from a life of grief if their children would live faithfully to their God. I am convinced, however, that there is a simpler explanation. If “she” in the first part of the verse finds its antecedent in the immediate context (a reference to Eve), then why wouldn’t “they” also find its antecedent in the immediate context? That would make “they” refer to Adam and Eve. If, in fact, the ultimate “salvation” of this first couple was to be found in the birth of a child (the Messiah), there would be a single set of conditions for this couple, and all couples, to meet in their remaining days — to live lives of faith, love, and holiness with self-control. Salvation, then, would not be works-based, but faith-based. Not by law, but by love. As He is holy, we must be holy!

Dr. Kenneth Wuest concurs, as do other scholars, with this particular view — “As to the plural pronoun ‘they’ … it seems better to understand the plural to be of the woman and her husband” [Wuest's Word Studies from the Greek NT, vol. 2, p. 51]. In a footnote to the New English Bible, this last phrase in 1 Timothy 2:15 is translated: “if only husband and wife continue in mutual fidelity.” In The Expositor’s Greek Testament, Dr. W. Robertson Nicoll says the same thing, almost word for word, “It seems better to understand the plural of the woman and her husband” [vol. 4, p. 110]. “If this view be accepted,” writes Dr. Nicoll, then the qualities mentioned by Paul (faith, love, holiness, and self-restraint) “refer respectively to the duties of the man and wife to God, to society, and to each other” [ibid].

Concluding Thoughts

One of the major problems with the interpretation that 1 Tim. 2:15 teaches women will be saved from eternal death by means of childbearing is that such a doctrine is clearly a works-based theology, one which discounts the realities of God’s grace and a woman’s faith. “For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, that no one should boast” [Eph. 2:8-9]. If women are saved by means of bearing children, then the above passage to the Ephesian brethren is rendered meaningless. A number of biblical scholars have pointed out this inconsistency, such as the study by Jeff Spencer titled “Are Women Saved by Faith Plus Works?” which appeared last year in the Practical Hermeneutics column of the journal published by the Christian Research Institute [vol. 28, no. 5, 2005]. Andreas Kostenberger also asks, “Is Paul here suggesting salvation by works? In what sense can a woman be ‘saved’ by bearing children? What would be so virtuous about bearing children that could become the cause of women’s salvation? And what about single women or married women who do not or cannot have children?” [CBMW News, Sept. 1997, p. 1]. There is simply too much conflict in the above theory with Scripture and with plain old common sense.

Returning to the letter of the dear Christian lady from South Carolina, it is my studied conviction that she has no reason to fear being cast from the presence of God because of her choice not to bear children. The ultimate redemption of mankind is by faith in and acceptance of the Lord Jesus Christ. I do not believe 1 Tim. 2:15 negates this fundamental Truth; indeed, it upholds it. Both Adam and Eve sinned in the garden, which Paul specifies in the verses prior to our text. However, as prophesied at the time of their fall, the seed of the woman would crush the head of the serpent who deceived her. Therefore, through the birth of a child would come salvation — i.e., through this fallen, sinful woman would come mankind’s Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who would cover all sins, even those of the pair in the garden. What must Adam and Eve evidence to receive such grace? Paul says it will be theirs “if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control” [NKJV]. They, like us, are saved by faith, a faith evidenced in hearts filled with love, lives of self-restraint with regard to the lusts of the flesh, and sanctification through the indwelling and transforming power of the Holy Spirit.

How strange that the apostle Paul would actually urge the unmarried, and widows and virgins, to remain single (1 Corinthians 7) if a woman’s salvation was conditioned upon her bearing children!! That would be contradictory advice. However, the problem is solved if Paul had in view the birth of a child, who would be the Savior of all. Our response therefore, whether male or female, is to live a sanctified, self-restrained life, one evidenced by faith and love! This has always been God’s desire for His people, and through the birth of the Messiah He has achieved our redemption. It is here that we must place our trust. Dear sister in South Carolina, rest easy tonight … your salvation is in Him, not in yourself. “Do not be afraid; for behold, I bring you good news of a great joy which shall be for all the people; for today in the city of David there has been born for you a Savior, who is Christ the Lord” [Luke 2:10-11].

(Emphasis mine)

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